Pack goodness into your holidays

A few easy-to-do things that you can keep in your mind and follow for a goodness-filled break.

For many of us, the day progresses something like this: get up and realise that we have just about enough time left to bathe and rush to office; reach office after a fierce battle with the crowd and traffic; work like there would be no tomorrow and come back home half dead. And, in the middle of all this, just mindlessly hog on to anything bearing the closest resemblance to food.

No. There is no concept of wellbeing left in our lives. Let alone doing proper exercise, we don’t even consider deep breathing for five minutes in the day. A few people who have shelled out money for gymming, do, at times, manage to run on the treadmill and think that they have done the needful. And yes, we don’t even have the time to think where we are headed towards, in terms of health and happiness. 

So, this is the kind of life that we are leading and when we feel we are really bottled up with pressure and stress, we plan a holiday. Considering our sorry state of being, for once, we need to think differently about our holidays. How about a place which would pack both fun and wellness into itself? Ok, if you are not planning to go about it in full swing, how about getting these few important things right while you are on a break:

1. Try and stay at a hotel or a guesthouse which either has a wellness or recreation centre or is close to one. Get up in the morning for a yoga session, swim or play a game of badminton. Believe me, it will make you feel happier than you can think.
2. Walk as much as you can. Considering that you would plan a trip to a prettier, cleaner place than your resident town, a walk will be fun.
3. Go for the region’s authentic cuisine, which generally has some goodness. No KFC or Mc Donald’s, or any other thing equally bad.


4. It is completely okay if your idea of holidaying is to get drunk and make merry. Just balance it out with some physical activity, proper food and good conversations. How about renting a bicycle for a ride around the town, if possible?
5. Stay happy. Don’t carry your laptop and work along with you. Enjoy the simple pleasures of life like looking at the star-studded night sky, gazing into the limitless expanse of the sea, smelling the flowers, or getting up in the morning to the sounds of the birds chirping. It will all do good.

Girls’ Thoughts On Sex Are Important, But Guys’ Thoughts? Who Cares!

Sex!

Oh no, am not talking about the act, but the gender!

Didn’t get it? I mean gender as in male or female!

Yeah, the world is always fair to the fairer sex when it comes to the topic of sex! No doubt, women have been used and exploited as objects of sex and for that, as a man, my head will always hang in shame, but times are changing now and the evolving women of our world are beginning to have a major say in their bedrooms!

And they are voicing their opinions, their tastes, their likings and disliking etc. quite openly and on every possible forum!

Don’t believe me?

Check out girls thoughts on sex in various publications, on websites, at chat shows on TV, and on social media and every possible media outlet that cares to listen (and trust me, there are millions of such platforms eager to listen to them!!) and you’ll find that they lap up every thought or maybe even a giggle about sex as long as it comes from a girl!

                                 

What kind of a man you like in bed? What is the size you prefer in your man? How do you want your man to love you in bed? The list of such questions goes longer than the distance between our earth and the sun four times over! No offence to ladies, but they also happily share their views! They should actually, ours is a democratic country! Every opinion matters!

My question is why are men just branded sex-freaks, despos, sex-obsessed etc. without listening to their side of the story? Does anyone care to listen about what kind of girls men want? What kind of sexual partner men are looking for? What brings them happiness and satisfaction in bed? Mind you, this kind of list will also be long enough to compete with the list for women!!

But no, there isn’t such a craze to understand man’s views or opinions about sex! We are just considered to be getting it all anyways and bunk hum theories keep coming up with weird statistics that men think about sex every 7 seconds! Like what the hell? Be reasonable, 7 seconds is way too much, make it at least 9 or 10 seconds? We also feel hungry, sleepy, tired etc. and are not horny 24X7! Damn it, we work also! No, don’t let your imagination fly again that the only work we know is in a bed! But if you thought so, great! At least for a change you might agree that men do some great wonders in bed and are not to be blamed for women being unsatisfied in their sexual encounters! Okay, well some men might fail you, but not all of them!

Well, to cut it short, it is high time that when it comes to women equality and hearing their voice about everything, including sex, men should also be given the same opportunity to voice their opinions about their favourite topic, sex!

Then we’ll see who is naughtier and who has a bigger sex appeal and who makes whom happy!

Sharing Sexual Secrets With Friends Can Lead To This! Are You Ready?

Friends are our second family after our real family!

The best buddies, the partners in crime, the emotional pillow to snuggle on in times of need and what not! However, only a few friendships survive the test of time and most wither away due to circumstances, personal priorities and unavoidable situations of life.

Can you trust them?

Yes you can, but for how long and how many of them, no one can say! That is why even in friendships, there should be a line drawn when it comes to sharing your intimate details. These details, especially of a sexual nature may initially sound fun or totally harmless, but in the long run they might turn to be your worst nightmares.

                          

Let me explain, in detail, the pitfalls of sharing your sexual secrets with your friends:

1) You Become An Easy Gossip Target

Unless it is your very close friend or buddy, and sometimes not even them, sharing your sexual life is only going to become part of the gossip machine! Sex is something that is still taboo in our country and for good or bad, it is still one of the most talked about things even if in hush-hush tones. To avoid being the centre of attraction for what you did inside a closed room, it is better to leave it there only!

2) You Are Providing Object Of Fun Served On The Plate

Not all your friends are going to help you with suggestions about how to improve your sex-life or solve your sex-related issues, but for sure it is going to be a topic of immense interest for them. No wonder, you’ll soon be an object of fun behind your back for people in your circle and even outside! You never know, they would start sharing dirty jokes with your name on them.

3) Ridiculed For Something That The Whole World Does

Opening about your sexual activities also makes you an easy target of fun and ridicule. Not only it does a character assassination, it also paints a biased and distorted image of you in front of the whole world. Sex, instead of becoming an act of pleasure, becomes a torture when you’re being targeted for something that everyone does, but hardly share!

4) Blackmail Comes Easy Your Way

This is true especially for girls who trust their friends way too much by sharing intimate and explicit details about their sex life, just to boast about it or to get an opinion. Such friends might take advantage by blackmailing about leaking that information or any texts or pictures that you may have shared. The social stigma associated with it is very hard to ignore or to live with given how the society functions in our country. It may be an orthodox way of thinking, but one can’t change the thinking of an entire society overnight, so it is better to mend your own ways!

5) Job Hazards

Your friends at work or otherwise who are privy to such intimate details, might use is against you. Also, if employers come to know of this, it can adversely affect your job, as the employers may not trust you with keeping secrets. Also, with the advancement in technology, whatever you text or share online, will always remain available for those trying to access it! Nothing is deleted permanently, ever!

6) Your Social Standing Is Affected Adversly

Societal pressures can make it difficult not only for you, but also for your family as well. Unless you and your entire family is immune to such things, and that is a big exception, such secrets coming out in public can literally cause a lot of embarrassment and have an impact on your relations in and out of the family.

Having sex related discussions are harmless, but when it comes to sharing your sex-life, it is advisable to be very careful!

Why to spoil the fun and make sex difficult?

Keep it to yourself and your partner!

5 Fascinating Ways To Bring Authentic Love In Your Life

You may at times claim that you don’t want the love and approval of people in your life. You may also claim that you can make it till the end all alone. But sometimes in you most honest moments with yourself, you may realize that your logic or denial has been faulty throughout.

Finding love is not meant, to be easy, especially when we’re talking of authentic love. You know you have a liking for a person and the person likes you in a similar manner. But the question that remains is that where do you see this love five years down the line. We tell you a few ways that could help you bring authentic love in your life. Read on!

1. Seeking love genuinely
People generally seek a relationship out of fear in today’s date. Fear of being lonely, fear of being left out on the shelf, fear of not conforming up to society’s expectations, and fear of being left out among coupled friends. In doing so, you seek a relationship out of fear and not love. This could result in you ending up with someone who does not even value you. So be patient and ‘fall’ in love, rather than running behind love.

2. Love yourself
You’ve heard it a number of times, and deep down that self love wins over the love of someone else. But there definitely are moments when that self love is not on your mind and you feel that someone else’s love is something that is a necessity for you. In those moments, sit down and think about things that you love about others and why did those things grab your attention. Write yourself a love letter, and feel the spark within you.

3. Be the best ‘You’
If you alter or change yourself, so that you match up to the other person’s expectations, there is a high probability that the person is not compatible with your true self. In that case, time and again you get confused if you should continue your fake persona or get back to your true self. That is when you miss yourself. If you really love the person you continue faking your persona, and if you love yourself, you switch to what you truly are. In either case, you’re the one to lose. However, if the person loves whom you truly are, be sure that he’ll come around.

4. Stop looking
Soul mates are like two magnets in a heavy magnetic field. Just like two magnets attract each other, there will come a time when you and your soul mate, no matter how far you are, will bump into each other. There is a reason why people call it ‘falling’ in love. If you look for it, chances are less that you’ll find the right person. Just let it tour, and see the magic.

5. Don’t limit your chances
I have come across a number of people who limit their prospective of finding love depending on their conditions. For example, someone who does not work at the same place, or someone who shows interest first, or someone who asks you out within three days of dating. Unfortunately, these expectations hinder you from receiving love. Thinking about the consequences on the way your manifestation of love looks like, is a big no-no. Leave yourself open to different manners and you never know, when your heart gets struck by the love arrow.

All I have to say, is that the more you limit yourself and manifest your love for others, the more are you hindering the entry of authentic love in your life. Love yourself, open up to people around you and there it is- sheer romance in your life.